In Memory of
1936 - 2019
Lynne Lounsbury posted a condolence
Monday, January 6, 2020Toot, Pat, BJ & Cathy, Please know that I was out of town, and committed to baby-sitting our youngest grand-daughter for the week, when Tokey/ your dad passed. As I wrestled with my decision not to disrupt the lives of others so that I could return quickly to Harrow, I took Logan for a long, brisk walk, pushing the stroller. She fell asleep, and I ended up at the lake, where I sat on the rocks and said a quiet and personal good-bye to Tokey and all that he has meant to our family. Somehow the calm and gentle lapping of the waves against the solid rocks, and the soft breeze off the lake bringing fresh air to the shore where I sat, reminded me of him. I asked God also to look after all of you, as he holds you in the palm of His hands.
Stephen Langlois posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 24, 2019The central picture above captures Tokey perfectly! His laughter and smile left the indelible impression of a man who knew the blessings life offered and was well-pleased. There was a lightness to his spirit which made him an absolute joy to be around! The most memorable element of my years in Harrow was the connection between our two families, of the fun and adventure we had. Thank you to Tokey, Tootie, Pat, B.J. and Cathy! Stephen Langlois
Peter & Hilda Ryan pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Tuesday, December 17, 2019In honour of Tokey, who was always "a cut above."
Family of Jayne Ryan Goldberg pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Sunday, December 15, 2019In honour of Tokey's commitment to feeding the hungry.
Family of Charles Ryan pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Sunday, December 15, 2019In honour of Tokey’s work with the Food Bank.
Brenda Langlois planted a tree in memory of Tokey Ryan
Saturday, December 14, 2019
Marc Langlois posted a condolence
Saturday, December 14, 2019Wow I love seeing that smiling warm face again even if it has to be in the pictures of this obituary. I liked and loved this man! Every single time I had an exchange with him he left me feeling better for who I was. The laugh, the encouragement, the inquisitive questions about what I was up to at all the many ages he knew me.....this will always stay with me. As a child the experiences of the pool time, baseball, family visits are joyful. He was always a sensitive and kind man and a solid example of what a good man is. We have been thinking and praying extra for Tokey, Tootie, Pat, B.J, and Cathy in particular, for sometime now. Marc Langlois
Karen Langlois posted a condolence
Friday, December 13, 2019This morning my mother called to say they had just returned from Tokey Ryan’s funeral. I haven’t seen Tokey for many years but I know that the world has lost a special man. I don’t remember when it was that my parents became friends with Tootie and Tokey, but I know our lives were never the same after that. “The Ryans” brought a kind of magic into our lives. I think we kids were a little bit in love with the whole family. At the heart were the sparkly and irreverent Tootie and the kind and gentle Tokey. And always the dry humour and the warmth and laughter. In my memory Tokey was always smiling or quietly chuckling. He spoke to me as though I was an adult. He was a true friend to my parents. Tootie, Pat, B.J. and Cathy, despite time and distance you are in my heart.
Mike Golden posted a condolence
Friday, December 13, 2019Ryan Families, ...o sorry to hear of Tokey's passing, such a great guy. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
Christine Moore and Mike Ryan posted a condolence
Thursday, December 12, 2019Some of my fondest childhood memories are being thrown around the pool by my older, cooler cousins at Toke and Toot's. Although I didn't grow up in Harrow it always felt like home and much of that was because of their warmth and hospitality. They couldn't make it to our wedding last year but that generosity continued, and I was so glad Christine was able to meet Tokey and we could spend some time with him at the reunion this summer. We went back to visit The Dugout and the old family homestead, which seemed a little smaller than my childhood but was so full of love and happy family history. At the centre was Tokey, still making us feel welcomed and important. I always looked up to the older Ryan kids and I think my dad did the same with Tokey, in whom he saw a kindred spirit. I know he enjoyed spending time with his older brother, especially in recent years, and cherished their time together. I did too.
Christine Moore and Mike Ryan planted a tree in memory of Tokey Ryan
Thursday, December 12, 2019
Family of Tyrus Ryan Jr pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Thursday, December 12, 2019In loving memory of Tokey Ryan
Essex 73's posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 11, 2019Our condolences to the Ryan family at this most difficult time. Essex 73's Junior Hockey Club
Sue, Lindsey, Regg & Zeke Oswald-Turner planted a tree in memory of Tokey Ryan
Wednesday, December 11, 2019
Doug Bondy posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 11, 2019Harrow has lost one of its finest citizens. Many have lost a good friend, a true gentleman. Tootie, my condolences to you and your family. Doug Bondy
Wendy Pulleyblank-Cunningham posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 11, 2019Dear Ryan Family, Tokey was the epitome of a great volunteer who was not only compassionate and wise but a generous human being. We enjoyed his company at our Essex Region Goodfellow meetings as he represented the St. Vincent de Paul Society in Harrow. A great man with a great smile. May he rest in peace. Job well done. Our deepest sympathies, Essex Region Goodfellows
Bob Porteous posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 11, 2019I wish to extend our sympathy to "Toodie" and the Ryan family. I cannot remember the specific date when I first met Tokey but we forged a friendship and mutual respect for each other almost immediately. We enjoyed our many golf and visiting opportunities over the years. Please know that many of us Agriculture types here in the Ottawa area will miss our dear Friend. May God be with you all!
David Stollar pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Wednesday, December 11, 2019Donation in memory of our Uncle Tokey Ryan. Dave & Donna
Kristen Ryan pledged to donate to St. Vincent de Paul Food Bank
Tuesday, December 10, 2019In loving memory of my Uncle Tokey Ryan
Kristen Ryan lit a candle
Tuesday, December 10, 2019
Herb and Michelle Fox posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019We are saddened to hear of Tokey’s passing. Our deepest sympathy to Tootie and the Ryan family. We will miss seeing Tokey in the bank and all over town. Rest In Peace Tokey!
Robert Goldberg posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019I always looked forward to visiting Uncle Tokey and Aunt Tootie in Harrow. When I was young, it was all about the toys and the pool and shortbread cookies. I would play in the TV room facing the street while the adults caught up in the kitchen. It was so different from home; I remember cicadas singing in the backyard one summer, watering the lawn (which almost certainly didn’t need watering) just to see what it was like, because we didn’t have a lawn in California. Just like I associated those things with Canada, I associated Tokey with Canadians. Even today, when my mind reaches for a stock representation of a Canadian, I think of Tokey: kind, generous, hard-working, warm, and patient. (If you ask me to do my best impression of a Canadian accent, what you’ll get is my best Tokey impression.) As I grew older, visiting Toke and Toot was less about the toys and more about enjoying their company. Tokey was so thoughtful and generous, always having something cooked up for us even if we were visiting after dinner, or sending treats home to me with my mother if I hadn’t come with her. I’m going to miss him, but I’m very glad I got to know him.
Jerry & Kathy Gignac posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019Our deepest sympathy to the Ryan family. You are in our prayers. Jerry & Kathy Gignac
Jane Stollar posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019Uncle Tokey’s house was was my second home growing up. I loved him for his quiet wisdom, easy laugh, gin & tonic and Tigers baseball passion. A good man through and through, he will be missed. Love you Uncle Toke.
Mollie Goldberg lit a candle
Tuesday, December 10, 2019
Jeff Gorick posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019A very kind and patient man. Tokey was my baseball coach and a highly respected mentor. Later in life when he worked with the Harrow Food Bank, he was always so grateful and emotional when we'd deliver donations from c.d. sales. His advice was always quiet and perfect. My last conversation with Tokey took place at Dr. Sanger's office a few weeks ago. It was a great talk and a wonderful final memory. He was definitely a Good Samaritan! -jeff We send our Love and Sympathy to the Ryan Family Jeff & Teri Gorick
Carol Cole posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019I am so sorry to hear of Tokey’s passing, such a wonderful gentleman. We had so many great chats during my years at DPM. It was my very good fortune to run into Tokey a couple of weeks ago, I will treasure that last conversation we had. May he Rest In Peace, my very sincere condolences to all his family. Carol Cole
John Stollar posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019Aunt Tootie, so sorry to hear of Tokey's passing. Always remember spending time at your home when my dad took us to Harrow for a visit or the Harrow Fair. Our deepest sympathies. John & Brenda Stollar and family.
John Stollar purchased flowers
Tuesday, December 10, 2019
Jean Wride McCarron posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 10, 2019Oh my! Tokey. Brings back long ago memories of the old potato pool and Tokey. Always smiling and always helpful. He will be missed. My sincere sympathy to all the family..
The family of Tokey Ryan uploaded a photo
Monday, December 9, 2019